I'd say your biggest problem is that your H seems to be a relative of "muffin the mule" once he has decided something he is too stubborn to admit he is wrong!
Need ways that contact is amicable, non confrontational, and he can feel comfortable accepting.
Have you got any house jobs that need two of you to do, or a mans strength, I know you dont want to look incapable, but the house was bought by both of you and if you were chosing a house on your own you would have chosen one that suited the needs of a single lass.
But if you are going to use this type of contact, say "how about helping me fix blah and blah" now this is going to sound really really harsh sorry, You are going to have to button it and not lose it in any way shape or form, acting "as if" is imperative, maybe even a bit "as if we need to sort this house out to finally sell it".
Using the moth analogy, your H will possible risk burning his wings to help you, but if you send out a flash fire he will get burnt anyway and not return! Will check in later x
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