Oh - and I am really questioning my nc with H.

The more I think about it, the more I realise that he always hated it when I wouldn't speak to him after an argument. He said that it was something that made him realise how outside of the M he really felt. I wonder if nc is doing the same to him?

It also makes me think that he might feel that I am accepting of the separation and I think that it gives him more of an impetus to think that his A is acceptable, as I have 'accepted' that he has gone.

I think that I have to have a new strategy ... anyone have any ideas??


WAH 43; W 47
M 16; T 17
Cats 15 & 6
Bomb 27/05/09
ow 28/06/09

"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"

Started counselling 17/08/09