Struggling

[bluerain]

Hi S&T, You might want to start a thread over in newcomers, there is just more traffic over there and you will probably get a little more attention.

Its pretty common early in a relationship for someone who is LD to become more HD, and when things start to slow down, it can leave the HD spouse very disappointed. I think that its important for a man to remember that often a man seeks sex to feel close to his W, a woman needs to feel close to her H to want to seek sex. Is there anything that you can think of that might make her feel distant from you?

I remember in my situation, my H would criticize me, I asked him for physical closeness at times other than in bed, I wanted him to hold my hand, he couldnt do that for me, and I firmly beleive that contributed to my lack of desire for sex. He couldnt do the things that made me feel emotionally close to him, and as a result, I couldnt do the things that made him feel physically close to me.