So, even though you've just started reading 5LL it seems like you may have already figured out your W language. That's great! The book does tell you to "listen" to what they've been saying and you can figure it out. Too bad some of us need that 2x4 to help us along.
Part of your wife's aprehension could be due to the fact that she is still getting used to all of the changes that are happening to you and how she is feeling/dealing w/them. She may be waiting for the "other shoe to drop" as well.
Bill-you really are going strong man. I don't see how she could turn away from you at this point. You're practically "prince charming" to her (and us) .
Here's a quote I got from somewhere that might help you w/your bedroom sitch: "If intimacy were easier to achieve, it wouldn't be worth nearly as much."
Use that analytical, engineering, over-stressed, articulate mind to ponder that concept.... Pretty provoking, huh?
Sorry I'm not the politicing type....but I do like Arnold (he he) I guess after his run, his slogan will really be popular "I'll be back". (ha ha)