I've been wanting to post to your specific information for a while, but haven't done much of any posting.
I am glad you chimed in when you did and in the fashion you did. I am grateful for the challenge as it has caused me to reflect and pin-point where I'm being a bit of a "wuss."
I've not explained everything well which has led to some misunderstandings in interpretations, but for the most part, you did nail some things that I'm not only processing, but have been putting into practice over the past few weeks I've been off the board.
Confidence is the key for me and being in charge of me and my life is what I need to continue to focus on. The male perspective is quite different than that of the female, but I understand what you are saying and can see what does apply to my sitaution.
It is basically continuing to GAL and being confient in my decisions. Clingy and needy isn't attractive. I agree and your words have allowed me to check myself.
I'm feeling better w/my attitude and as phoenixdeux mentioned, just the "vibe" of me being independnet is enough for her to reach out to me.
More consistency is what I need in order to see what this truly will become.
Your opinion is welcomed ALWAYS and I'm one who would rather be challenged than told what "I want to hear." I value the male perspective as much as I do the female perspective. So I hope you (along w/the females out there who slap me around to keep me focused on the important things) will keep on posting and I'm hoping you'll be a regular contributor to this thread, my friend.
RTL PS - The DAM comment from me was sarcastic and tongue in cheek. I know I'm not a DAM but I do accept the fact that males just aren't as naturally good at relationships and emotions as women. It doesn't come easily or naturally for us, but a real man will work at understanding the female in his life and try to be more receptive. Thus, by calling myself a DAM, I don't really think I am, but I do admit to not having women "figured out." I'm a sarcastic one by nature, so I hope you can see the sarcasam of my self-labelling
