Have you ever considered that maybe she does this tantrum throwing as a substitute for sex? I mean, I think she is a very sexually frustrated woman.
Bingo!! The tantrums, the blow-ups, the no-holds-barred spewing of tremendous emotion...what passion. What an eloquent, tragic, passionate substitute for sex in your relationship. When you don't intellectualize all this...what would happen if you two just channeled the passion in the bedchamber instead of letting it overflow into the family room? 'Cuz it's clearly there, y'know. Would there really be any more harm in just getting after it and having no-holds-barred sex than in what happened Last Night? I'm not trying to oversimplify--but sometimes things are more simple than we try to make them, especially when we are gifted, articulate and intellectual.
Jus' sayin'.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012