You and I are in opposite situations...My husband and I are having great s_x, but he lives in our other house. I decided to take this route because we truly lived in a SSM brought on by me. This was the catalyst to our separation - I know, it goes way deeper than that, but we truly disconnected because we did not ML nearly as often as H needed to in order to feel close in our R. So....my 180 has been to go with things and always be available for the "can I come over later?" meetings - usually 2 times per week. I have seen remarkable improvement in our R since instigating this....heck, H called me a few minutes ago at work just to "check in" and talk and tell me that his plans had changed this evening and he could absolutely keep kids so I could work late.
I suspect your wife is SCARED about ML. Too many huge expectations and "what if" there aren't fireworks and all. So, just let her come around at her pace. How were things before the separation?
Anyway, just thought it is strange that some of us are really in totally differents situations, but it all boils down to the same thing, right???
