When I reach back to her, sometimes I get strong connection back, sometimes a more ambivalent feeling. I have to admit though, as the months have gone by, the ambivalence seems less and less, and the connection seems more and more.
Just tonight I sent her an e-mail about my birthday, which is coming up soon. Before our separation, obviously the one of us who's birthday it isn't would take the kids out and help them buy gifts. Since we're no longer together, that's not so obvious any more. In my e-mail I asked her if she wanted to take the kids out to get me gifts. I said if she didn't want to that was fine, I'd make other arrangements, but if she did, I gave her some ideas. I said I'd reimburse her for the cost in my next child support payment to her.
She e-mailed me back tonight and said she would so not let me reimburse her, that she would take the kids out tomorrow to look for my gifts, then put in a smiley face.