In answer to Sandi2..I don't think its so much what I can't have.. I always wanted my H, this may sound strange, but I had wished and verbalized that the OM was fulfilling a need I desparately wanted my H to fulfill because I loved him. When we talked about that area of our R, he just told me he couldn't or wouldn't fulfill that need I had. Will it be different now? Maybe, because our sex life wasn't completely dead, and after reading some of the Sex Starved book, I think there's hope here. I believe I've learned so much about what matters and by coming to this site, never giving up and finding the right people to talk with will be the best thing we could do for each other.
However, he hasn't done all this reading, and he had told me that he thinks if we had gone to a counselor before we married the first time, they may have found us not to be a match, but since we fell in love we got married anyway. I'm not really sure how to take that observation by him. And even after that statement, he still said there may be a reconciliation in our future. So I'm just a little confused with both of those statements. He talked about maybe now, we will be more suited for each other, maybe with what we've learned?
