I'm not in a position to offer advice on this so it should come from others. I think you're definitely on the right track. Only thing I notice is that you seem to be timidly pleading for what should be boldly demanded or at least clearly and authoritatively stated, as a required boundary.
I wish I could, RSF. My H gets even more enraged when I confront him strongly. He also tends to blame me. It just gets worse.
However, I think you and others on this forum are right. I need to develop more firmness and strength when laying boundaries for him. I know I'll be confronted with his yelling at me day after day, so I'll have plenty more chances to practice firmness.
I called him after that and told him yelling wasn't cool in front of Z. He literally said, "I didn't yell - and not in front of S." How am I supposed to confront someone who doesn't see what they are doing? He just does not see it people.
