Thank you all! I am responding to H with the basic "appreciate your email, accept the apology, let's focus on the girls" scenario.
Peace - you are right - I never thought ex-H would ever say anything like this. I always felt that he would eventually recognize what he had done, but I never thought that he would own up to it. I was surprised at my reaction when reading it. See the words that he felt bad for the way he treated me and he has realized the hurt he has caused brought me to tears. It doesn't mean that I think things will change or anything along those lines - but you wonder for years - what did I do to deserve this. It is just a little moment of redemption.
BT and Grace - thanks for the advice - I pretty much followed what you suggested.
Sleeper - what I really wanted to respond with was "what email?"
Forward - all of this happened this morning - I have been sitting on this all day letting go of my initial emotions so I could write the reply I really wanted to write.
