I've been through the exact same thing with my XW. Throughout the separation, she made very bad financial decisions, not to mention trips to meet up with the OM. Foolishly, I offered to help her on several occasions as I loved her and felt like it was my duty as a husband to help her. I was feeding her 'cake-eating.'

They must see what it will be like for them to be totally on thier own, without you in thier life.

Formerly SGfan
M:38
W:33
M:8 yrs
T:10 yrs
Bomb: Dec '08
Separated: 4/18/09
Divorce: 8/28/09
XW Affair began: April 08