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[neversaydie63]

Hey awest1217,

Just been reading your sitch here and I (as do most here) feel your pain. Your H left almost the same day my W moved out (4-23-09) so don’t feel so bad, I got you by 3 days! -- Ha, LOL, sorry, just trying to bring some humor to this difficult situation. I have found that laughter, even in the most painful situations, can be the best medicine.

This DB'ing and trying to be happy and positive all the time, even when you feel like [censored], is hard, hard work. Every time I get ready to see or even just call my W, I review my notes, jot down things before hand as to what I want to talk about and what I want to avoid, and review my DB do’s and don’t – it feels like I am crunching for a friggen collage final exam, but I am careful, because I don’t want to slip (not that I don’t screw up, it just seems like I screw up less often these days, but I need to do my homework and be prepared)

I can’t tell you what to do here, no one can and at the end of the day, only you are the person to make the decision to stay the course or jump off that roller coaster. But I think venting here is a good thing and a healthy thing, that way when he calls, you will be in better control of your emotions and your temper. Have you tried not taking his call sometimes, and then maybe giving him a call the next day? (Maybe make him wait or suffer a bit and not be so available for him) Maybe on a night that you think he is going to call, take your S somewhere fun and when he asks where you were, just say you were out w your S. Don't give him much more info, keep him guessing. I think you may be surprised at the results.

Anyhow, hang in there and vent away here as much as you like, we all do and it’s good for the mind, body and soul.

NSD