GoBison, as hard as it is to not try to talk your W out of doing anything based on her parents or anyother reason.....the fact is that if you do talk, then you are hurting yourself. You will be the bad guy in the picture if you try to see her or contact her. She will have to figure some things out...and mostly learn for herself. That is so hard for you and it takes "time". People like you and I want to "help" guide our loved ones, so they can see how things really are, right? However, if you can hang on and give her the time she needs, then hopefully she will turn back to the one who has quietly stood by and loved her. She will see that you did not try to "tell her" what to do. WAW's do not like to be told what to do or think or feel....especially by their LBH.
BTW, just b/c you aren't telling her things....doesn't mean you have stopped loving her. She will figure that out also.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
