It is unbelievable how jealous she is over your R with the boys. That is exactly why something always seem to be wrong and they can't communicate with you throughout the week.....and now you've offered to have the geek squad go fix it and she has to think about it?......Please!
I didn't want it to go this way, but I think she is playing you. I was hoping that my gut feeling was wrong and that she was seeing the mistake she'd made and was trying to warm up to you. But, I think you had the right word......"butter" up is more like it.
I can't believe she would go to you for a loan to pay off furniture after she did you like she did. So.....you might as well expect her to be hounding you for every bill that comes her way until she discovers that you are not going to fall for her games and be controlled. BTW, don't be surprised if she doesn't play the sex card some night. If she can't get money out of you one way....she'll try another. I know that is bad to think that way about her....but that is my gut feeling....again. I hope I'm wrong, but time will tell.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!