Mar, I'm not trying to be a cat, but which one are you calling your "ex"? I am confused.
There is one thing that bothers me. If the boyfried you left your H for had been committed and wanted to M you......would you be where you are now? I mean, do you want to reconcile with your H b/c things didn't work out with the boyfriend?
I understand that you were starved for romance and it sounds as if the physical touch is your LL, so I see where that could have been a big problem in your R with your H. It would have made you vulernable to an A when boyfriend from the past came back. Your H either trusted you an awful lot or else he got pretty sloppy by letting boyfriend get that close to you again.
I don't mean to offend, but can you see where one would wonder if you just want what you know you can't have anymore? First, the boyfriend, now your ex-husband? You seem to have had a good R with your H except for problems with the need for more sex. Do you feel things would be different this time around? If so, why? Yes, you can see where you made a mistake, but I go back to what I asked before. Do you want what you can't have?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
