I think what I was trying to say was perhaps the marriage has to be totally dismantled before it can start again as a new relationship in whatever form the new relationship may be. As an Aussie who grew up in bushfire areas I guess it's like the forest burning to the ground and remaining so sad, desolate and forlorn. When the new charcoal landscape appears to be permanent and the memory can barely conjure up images of the former area, tiny little sprigs of green start to sprout bringing new life and beauty to the charcoal mess.
