To me there seems to be a lot of things that have added up to this break up. I actually have no reason to suspect an affair, so will leave it alone for now. My W runs her own cleaning business and she has said a number of times of the last few months that she doesn't know whether she should continue with it or not. Alot of stress involved, she has 5 girls working for her also.
Another thing is that we wanted to own a farm by the time the kids were a certain age, and thats not going to happen due to debt. Also back to her self confidence issues, It was one of her goals that by the time she was 30, she could get a boob job to help with the self body image. Those things cannot happen due to our debt levels. I suspect all of these things have also added to the underlying marriage issues. So from her eyes I would think she has added all of these things up and decided it would be easier to seperate for her to get to her goals, by getting rid of the house and alot of debt and start from scratch... Thats why I think its almost like a young version of a mid life crisis. I think its a big no no, but I felt like asking her to read the Walk away wife syndrome article by Michelle, as it describes exactly what has happened to us, plus the other stresses. I am in such a horrible state of mind at the moment. I think its lucky I have the kids, it seems to be the only thing holding me together and not going on a bender!
M - 30 WAW - 29 D - 8 S - 5 BOMB - 09/12/09
My Situation - http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1842559#Post1842559
