Well Oz - there are your answers and, try as I might, I could not have said it any better than the input from above.
I am wondering how you are feeling this morning - a bit sick, I would imagine. That's the feeling that I get up to most mornings and yet I hope that you will be gathering the information ^^ and trying to process your next move now so that you take up the reigns and do not allow H to treat you this way. It's gonna be tough but you have a little bit of work to do on him now, imho.
Stop, think, act and then review - just like driving your car. Plan your manoeuvres first. Run the scenario in your own mind and get your answers together - you have an idea of his responses so be ready - being on the front foot will just enable him to see how in control you really are. You know that there is no A and we know it too. You shouldn't have to prove yourself to H but he needs to know that this is one accusation too far.
Hope that you have some contact today. Will be back after work ((Oz))
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