wife left, wants divorce, possibly bipolar

[ryepatch]

[quote=ryepatch]i'm going to assume she's coming back, but not til christmas and there won't be any good signs til almost thanksgiving.

Be careful with setting timeframes, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Live in the now and accept what is. She is sick, saying she will be better by Christmas is sort of like saying someones cancer will be in remission by next month. I would take each day as it comes.

I have started contemplating plans for what I want to do if W does not come back. I have started thinking of a timeframe for when I would start pushing for dissolution. Unfortunately, it is the only part of the relationship of which I have total control. Thus, the only thing to which I can set a timeframe. Now I happen to be thinking the beginning of next year as well. I figure if she shows no desire to be a family through the holdiays, then it is probably a marriage that needs dissolved.

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that's all that i mean, really, that if there's no contact and no D by the holidays i'm going to have to take action by myself. also, i'm trying to live in the now and not worry about how long it takes, just figure that something will have changed by then. and i'm accepting that i won't hear much in the next few months. if i do i'll be pleaasantly surprised, hopefully.

yeah, there's no rational, practical reason for her to push for D, but she was adamant about it before, so even if it's just that she's calmed down enough to realize that, it's a good sign, i think.