i wouldn't bother demanding yet that she stop seeing the OM. . .
I WOULD! This has been going on for 2 years. I fail to see how continuing to have a third party in this relationship is acceptable.
it's not acceptable. all i'm saying is it shouldn't be a precondition for MC. you want to get her into the process first, and have the focus on your marriage aand relationship and family. it will be obvious to her, if she thinks about it for a second, that she can't come back to her family and hang on to the OM. make this clear at some point, but not up front. remember, she's still somewhat in a fog, and could interpret this as controlling.
wait til she says what she wants in MC, then tell her what the conditions are. not the other way around.
just my opinion.
me 30 WAW 30 M 8 yrs T 9.5 yrs
3 cats 9,6,6
W left 5/31/09 W stopped most contact 06/26/09 W filed 7/22/09 (haven't been served)
