Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[Lotus]

Glad to hear things are better. Have you ever considered that maybe she does this tantrum throwing as a substitute for sex? I mean, I think she is a very sexually frustrated woman. Funny that OM chose her for sex. It's really not her thing.

[SmileysPerson]

You may be right, @Lotus, may be right.

When she said the kiss I gave her the other night "felt so good" (it having been so long since Signore), I told her I agreed -- in fact agreed so much that if she happened to find herself nekkid in my bed, above, below, or alongside of me, ol' Smiley's Person would show her just how good he thought it was.

But, no, she couldn't live with "just being one of [my] lovers."

Ya gotta dig that. In the space of about 2 weeks I go from being Mr. Cellophane, Undesirability Personified, to the King O' Swing. Poor Hef -- on his way to divorce court, and the wee man's got nothing on Smiley's Person Himself.

Wonder where he gets those slammin' pajamas?

[Dia]

Ever the Devil's Advocate, I.

In the midst of her verbal vomit, you do realize that what she's saying is, "I won't share." And leaving aside Miss Someone for the moment, that's what you've been saying, too, isn't it?

Now, if the proverbial fork is already in it, that's completely fine as it's your fork to stick. I don't know if I could deal with the Crazy, either, and I completely agree that involving Themselves was beyond the pale. It's just - despite the drama, the two of you are shockingly close to being on the same page. Too bad you had to burn the book to do it.

[SmileysPerson]

you do realize that what she's saying is, "I won't share." And leaving aside Miss Someone for the moment, that's what you've been saying, too, isn't it?

First part I concur with, absolutely; second sentence leaves me a bit mystified.

It's just - despite the drama, the two of you are shockingly close to being on the same page. Too bad you had to burn the book to do it.

'Twas ever thus. We were almost never NOT on the same the page. The villain, on D-Day anyway, was Marriage Itself.

Well, they had to destroy the village in order to save it.

Let's find out what Harmony looks like, shall we? Smiley's Person no longer does, "Regret."

[Dia]

Unpacking the 2nd sentence. If one could sum up your entire reaction to Signore, would it not come down to 'I wont share'?

On a completely separate note, I admire your writing. I find you witty and wise. Without knowing the topic at all, I'd be interested in reading your book. Can you discuss it here or is that verboten?

[aliveandkicking]

SP- I think you have proven fairly well that you know what you're doing so I'm just gonna kick back and observe here.

[hoosiermama]

Have you ever considered that maybe she does this tantrum throwing as a substitute for sex? I mean, I think she is a very sexually frustrated woman.

Bingo!! The tantrums, the blow-ups, the no-holds-barred spewing of tremendous emotion...what passion. What an eloquent, tragic, passionate substitute for sex in your relationship. When you don't intellectualize all this...what would happen if you two just channeled the passion in the bedchamber instead of letting it overflow into the family room? 'Cuz it's clearly there, y'know. Would there really be any more harm in just getting after it and having no-holds-barred sex than in what happened Last Night? I'm not trying to oversimplify--but sometimes things are more simple than we try to make them, especially when we are gifted, articulate and intellectual.

Jus' sayin'.

[Dia]

FWIW, having been a fixture in those hallowed ivory tower halls, we freely admit that intellectual discourse is sublimated sex, so you're dead on with the gifted, articulate, intellectual bit.

[orangedog]

My xW snapped at me this morning over something very minor. Does that mean she thinks I'm hot?

heh heh

[Dia]

LOL!! No clue, but it does mean she's still engaged/enmeshed/fused with you.