And you are right, he probably still isnt being truthful to OW, although I do have a feeling they are arguing quite a bit lately (when they have problems, I see long phone calls on his cell records... there was a huge one yesterday)
Well everything he says is pretty selfish really. I mean he's going to have his R with her, no matter what you think, right? And he wants to have the R he wants to have with you (in his mind, simply being what makes him feel good about himself, not really any regard for others) no matter what she thinks. Is that about right? sounds...fair?
OF COURSE he's lying to her. I, sadly, was an OW for a while, and believe me he lied lied lied. Big surprise. The thing was he told the factual truth about events in their R that was supposedly OVER before he met me (lie), which I could corroborate (she had multiple affairs) so he seemed like the wronged spouse...but he was lying his ass off every time he opened his mouth. He lies to himself, IMO. He never did leave her to my knowledge. We broke up a long time ago, I have no contact with him by my choice...I later found out he moved on to one of my friends however...and I found out about the one before me. I think he stays married because of money. So even if you get this one back...well...watch out.
Also, everyone loves to heap scorn on the OP, about how they are "going after" the married spouse...but there really is no depth they don't sink to in lying about their wives and marriages. Seriously. I never "went after" mine, he pursued me relentlessly. I now feel horrible for his wife. But at the time I believed him, and felt like she had just pummeled him over and over again emotionally and he had never been loved, that she was a neglectful mother, all of it. (Excuse me while I go vomit.) Or she's really that bad and they're both psycho, I don't know. Don't WANT to know.
Well, I guess I made that about me. Anyway, just be careful.
