Help Me Bust My Divorce

[Fightin4mywife]

Sandi,
My wife is a very dominating and controlling person. She doesn't know it. I didn't know it. I thought she was loving me. I know different now. However the problem came in how I handled the threat of her controlling manner. I rebelled. Crazy, childish acting out. Drinking, porn, and eventually even verbal and some physical abuse. A lot of quarreling in our household (20 plus yrs). But we've always both been extremely commited. The ultimate problem has been my repeated promises to change and "get spiritual", which never occured. The behaviors did change as far as porn, drinking and hitting, but I never did take seriously the need for healing and restorative work to rebuild security and trust. Thus she is still not secure after several years that I am not inclined to repeat certain behaviors. I did get help both pastorally and with addiction and anger management counseling. I understand the two fundamental beliefs she has: 1. she knows everything about me. 2. I am incapable of change. She's dead wrong. By the way I no longer have a spirit of anger towards her. Only a spirit of love and concern. I hurts to see her so hurt. I care deeply for my wife and wish to see our divorce BUSTED. thank you.
jim