Bill - welcome to piecing! I highly recommend that you read The Five Love Languages by Chapman with your W - will help you both to realize what "languages" you need to speak for your spouse to feel loved. Will help with your homework assignment. Basically, the five languages are Physical touch (hugging, handholding etc - not just sex) Acts of service, Quality time, gifts, and Words of affirmation. Usually each of us has a couple languages we prefer to receive in (may be completely different from the ones we express ourselves with) and it really helps to know your partner's languages (Why waste time washing her car for her when what she really wants is for you to tell her ILY and goive her a flowery card?).
