I won’t speculate on your wife’s spirituality, but one thing seems certain, your wife is sick of YOU.
You can believe anything that you want, you can believe that some magic sky-fairy is responsible for making sure that your life runs just fine and you get everything that you want, your way and in your time. The rub comes when what you want for yourself differs from what your spouse wants for herself.
You continue to apply a literal translation from the part of the bible you believe in (new testament) to your marriage. Your wife obviously doesn't believe the same translation that you do. And that doesn't make her wrong. It makes her understanding different from yours. And you can continue to shout that she has it wrong and you are right, but I don't think that that is going to help you on bit.
Believe what you want. Give your wife the same consideration.
Everything changes KD. Life isn't static. Stop trying to grab and hold things that are impermanent.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .