I will even add the brain damaged woman doesn't have to go back to her H. Paul wrote that God said a woman should not divorce her H. But if she does, she is to remain single or be reconciled to her H.
So no, I wouldn't think that she should go back to her H after doing that. But she still isn't given the permission to remarry someone else.
If she chooses to do so, that is between her and God.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
It is amazing the darts that get thrown at you for stating your stance on something.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
My W is not happy that I rescheduled my daughters C appointment for next Tuesday on her week.
Life is fun.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
If you S is injured or deathly sick, do you not call a doctor?
If your S is spiritually sick, do you not call on God to heal that S?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
By the way, so nobody thinks I am self-righteous, I ask God to heal and fix me as well since I know I have things that need to be fixed.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I won’t speculate on your wife’s spirituality, but one thing seems certain, your wife is sick of YOU.
You can believe anything that you want, you can believe that some magic sky-fairy is responsible for making sure that your life runs just fine and you get everything that you want, your way and in your time. The rub comes when what you want for yourself differs from what your spouse wants for herself.
You continue to apply a literal translation from the part of the bible you believe in (new testament) to your marriage. Your wife obviously doesn't believe the same translation that you do. And that doesn't make her wrong. It makes her understanding different from yours. And you can continue to shout that she has it wrong and you are right, but I don't think that that is going to help you on bit.
Believe what you want. Give your wife the same consideration.
Everything changes KD. Life isn't static. Stop trying to grab and hold things that are impermanent.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .
I am not shouting anything at her. I don't discuss it with her. She knows where I stand and I know where she stands. I have no earthly idea what her beliefs are. But I know they don't include me in the picture at the moment.
A covenant marriage is a permanent bond until one of us passes away. I stand by it. I stand alone at the moment for it. But I stand for it none the less.
That is my choice. And she makes her choices.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I won’t speculate on your wife’s spirituality, but one thing seems certain, your wife is sick of YOU.
Can't argue with that which is why I don't bother her.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Now don't everyone freak out. I am still thinking of a way to ask my beloved darling to go to Retrouvaille with me next month.
Any suggestions on how to put it to her so she might consider it?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Any suggestions on how to put it to her so she might consider it?
There is no way...There MIGHT be in the future but not now. If your going to do it anyway, which I think you well...I would say just ask her outright and tell her you'll email her the info so she can look at it...It won't turn out well.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."