K4D Rising #4

[june72]

Some hurts cannot be healed. Sometimes the only option is to separate.

This is a worldy cop out. All marriages can be fixed and healed with time. By the way, I don't have an issue with temporary separation. The bible doesn't even have an issue with that. Its the permanent separation/legal divorce I have an issue with. But I also know once again that it is not in my control. I have no say in the matter and I don't pretend to have a say in the matter.


Kevin,

Got to admit this is perplexing. True story. I was an ICU nurse and had a woman admitted who was beaten with a baseball bat an inch of her life. Permanent brain damage, kids witnessed it, very bad. Are you saying that this woman should forgive and go back to the husband?

It takes 2 to make a marriage work and 1 to break it. You can work all you want on a marriage but if the other is unwilling you are stuck.

Curious on your thoughts. Also, I get the impression that you feel your belief system trumps other's religious views. Not sure if I am reading you right.

What I do believe to be correct though is - while you hide behind your religious views it's almost a cop out to do the "real" work on you. People have stated time and time again- you have to take action to change but you still go on and on about little minor incidents with your wife. Again, maybe I am seeing this all incorrectly.

I wonder if this "stander's" viewpoint also has the doctrine of changing yourself to a better person but you've minimized that part.

Kevin, what is wrong with a little bit of counseling-is it going to harm you in any way? No time, no money, another reason?

I think if you polled people on here they would state that your still in "stuck-mode" in regard to wife and have to move forward. Perhaps I am 100% wrong. It's just the impression I am getting.

Kevin- even "standing for your marriage" should be you actively pursuing changes in you. Just my thoughts...