Can you introduce more humour and light hearted weekly topics for a while to chill things out? Such as all the different types of cheeses you would really like to eat for example?
It sounds to me like you guys are doing a lot of serious hard work, not a bad thing. Can you get more of the fun just mates thing happening? Even if hes not into going out, more music less tv type stuff? How about if you really act AS IF you are happy around the house, lead you both to a better place?
Your H would still be in OW withdrawal perhaps and trying to close that off must take quite a bit of time to work through.
