What I was doing is from looking in the mirror. I realized that I took over a lot of situations from her and gave her responsibilities that she did not want.
Knowing nothing I do now affects the outcome,but everything I do is and knowing she is watching me.
I am trying to switch roles with her. She gets her wants and I take her responsibilities. That is not a fixing,that is letting have something that i had taken away.
For example feeding the kids,she takes them out to eat now, I stayed up late last nite and made them dinner and dropped it off to a neighbor. Last wk when I had them i treated them to Wendys my last nite, both kids said man dad you didn't take us out to eat one day this wk. Now I'm sure they're complaining about it to her, i know there was a time when she worked all day and made dinner and no one ate it or ate together and she felt her time was wasted.
Another comment that was made by her, I was never there when needed,dr appts,paying bills,school conferences,taking kids to practice,helping with homework.
I am doing what I am doing because ONE those things are important to me and I didn't take the time to do them, I kept my butt at work and I always wanted to do them.
