H filed for divorce 3 wks after bomb--HELP!

[lilynichols]

My husband dropped the bomb (I don't love you like I should; I married the wrong woman; I'm attracted to you and you're my best friend but it's not enough; I won't do counselling because it will give you false hope) on Aug 30. He went to stay with his parents that day. He swears there is no OW. On Sept 18, he filed divorce papers. Now he is on my case to sign a divorce settlement agreement and/or to decide what we're doing with the house so that he can get into a 12-month apartment lease. In my state, a divorce can be final in only 60 days, so he is convinced we should be divorced by Nov. 18.

I am trying to implement DB, but I feel like there's not enough time. I can try to stall on decisions about the divorce, but that sends him into fits ("My worst nightmare is having this drag on. I can't eat, can't sleep, and need to move on with my life."). When asked about the rush, he says he can't take the uncertainty.

I don't know what to do. He texted me today wanting to know if I've made any decisions on the house (we last talked 5 days ago). I am trying to detach and give him his space, but he had been very controlling in our relationship and I don't want to keep giving him his way. However, I fear that stonewalling will push him away for good.

Any advice? Should I meet to discuss the house? Or let him twist for awhile? I should mention that I haven't been contacting him, but he texts every few days to see if I'm ok, which is confusing. I'm having a really hard time because all of this has happened so fast and would appreciate any wisdom.

Thanks!

Me: 32
Him: 32
Married: 12/2006
Bomb: 8/30/2009
Divorce filed: 9/18/2009