Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Difficult night last night. H and I had one of our bi-weekly talks and it ended with neither of us sleeping well..

I really wanted to go on a vacation this Christmas/New Years with the kids, so as to NOT re-live last Christmas when H dropped the bomb and moved out. H doesn't want to go on a vacation with everyone and spend lots of money when we might have a miserable time. He said I could go on my own...

Should I take him up on it? Take the girls and go somewhere around the holidays? Not sure. I felt hurt.

H still says he doesn't feel connections with me-we've been ML almost every night since he moved back home..so I asked him why we're doing that if he doesn't feel a connection and he doesn't know...I felt hurt by that too....

So I'm reacting and having a hard time distancing.. These are the things that confuse me about merging traditional therapy/communication skills with DB-ing.

Not sure what's next. Trying to get back my distance..