Quote: I thought he should act the way I wanted him to act towards me. When he didn't, the resentment built up until communication broke down. I don't want to make the same mistakes I made before.
This is where I still get stuck sometimes even though I find I'm MUCH better than pre-bomb. Ha...I'm even sort of stuck there today (well, last night)...feeling a bit tired, wanted MY needs (for conversation, for attention in this case) to be met the way that I wanted them met (and NOW, gosh darn it). I still feel some of that residue this morning...but your post has reminded me to take a step back, maybe figure out how I can meet some of my own needs, maybe ask directly for what I need, etc.
Quote: SOMEONE has to do SOMETHING different. It might have to be us,and I know it's NOT FAIR, but once again, we have to be the strong ones that will strive for making the lasting changes that will work to the good of our M.
Yup! Someone has to break the cycle...might as well be us while we're thinking about it!
Quote: Am I making sense here?
Perfectly.
Great, great post.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
