Much better. You can still be our sweet, lovable Karen while standing your ground. That's not being mean at all (as some folks tend to think) -- in fact, it is really being kind to everyone by sticking to what's fair and proper for all concerned, especially for your kids.
If, once you've sent this to your H, he again opens the question, just send him your statement again. Rinse and repeat. Keep it friendly but concise and consistent until he gets that there is no room for deviation.
