Kevin, first of all ditto to what volleydog said, stand away, just get emotionally healthy while you do it.
Anyway, I just came back from an Al Anon meeting, I haven't been able to go for about six weeks. Someone brought up boundaries in conversations and I just want to apologize for being so harsh earlier.
To explain where so much frustration is coming from, I know more than one person, and one good friend in particular who is in a very damaging marriage to an unstable person who refuses to change and keeps blaming her for their problems (HIS emotional abuse). And he keeps telling her divorce is a sin. That God doesn't allow it. He seems to think he can do whatever he wants however. And so MANY women are told this and made to feel guilty about trying to get out of a dangerous ungodly marriage.
I find it an extremely emotional issue. Anyway, you're free to do whatever you please, as you see fit. I think most of us are just trying to help you get unstuck on your fixation on W.
