You asked for some specificity after our talk the other night. I don’t have much time right now but wanted to share one of the things that I think is really hurting us. Basically we’re not having any good healthy conversations. I feel that you are deliberately avoiding me. What I’m getting from you is the “talk to the hand” response. You mentioned that you felt I wasn’t hearing you/getting it when we were having conversations and you were consequently afraid to do or say anything for fear of sending the wrong message. I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. That has to be a crappy feeling. I honestly don’t recall us having any healthy conversations (started with a purpose and ended with some resolution) that we could point back to and say one way or the other that I was hearing you or you me.
-rsf
Dear W,
There is nothing of greater importance to me than our ability to keep open our lines of communication. Although my time is short right now, I intend to come back to you with some thoughts and answers to the queries that you posed to me the other day. I know you are going through difficult times and, perhaps, even find it difficult to speak with me, but, I want you to know that I am always here to listen. It is my intent that our conversations will become more productive over time and, in fact, even more interesting and desirable as we work through this together.
FIB for rsf
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
