Originally Posted By: Dudess

Well . . . did your H leave the buffet voluntarily? Did he have a change of heart while he was there?


He's still in it, all access. I have no idea what is in his heart. I see a change but I don't know why. He is still going out and will continue traveling and working with fabulous people.

Maybe it is me that changed. If I had to guess, he is seeing that I could maybe be that kind of person...I can't get into details but I think his curiosity is peeked as to what I'm doing and if I'm getting my own thing going in the biz. But, I am not going to be one of those people. I can be a little fabulous here and there but I'm not gonna be on the cover of a magazine or become a party girl. I don't know how much this is playing into his change.

It is funny, Gucci had referenced how juvenile H is and something about shaking up those roles. Now H is expressing concerns about kid related things that I used to harp on and no longer do...I will never be reckless or abandon my kids but it is kind of cool how if I lighten up and drop the ball a little, he picks it up...

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I don't think my H forms truly close attachments to people. It can look like it sometimes, but events like I've just seen show otherwise.

My H does not have genuine pride in himself in so many ways, certainly not as a husband and a father. His actions don't merit it. I think he is very dependent on the outside applause to keep him feeling okay. In a marriage, inevitably, there will be some behavior you don't applaud, and that's when the trouble starts.


Man, that is painful to read. Sucks to be them.

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I think my H craves the stability and security of being married and having a home. It's something he never really had. I don't know if my H will eventually want to come home. If he does, I think gucci is right - people need a crisis to make major changes. That's one of many reasons I won't be here.


Brutal reality. Same in my sitch. Sad.

Last edited by aliveandkicking; 09/22/09 04:29 PM.