Some more info. No kids. When we dated she had a bit more of a sex drive but this was dropping even before we got married. Nothing has really changed apart from just the newness of the relationship. I think she is just LD and therefore when we first dated that picked up.
She does now realise that it's a problem in our relationship and that if we want to have a future, or at least a happy one, then we need to work on this. She is working in it but I do think that if she could just ignore it and it not be an issue then that would be easier for her. She does realise too that ML is a normal part of a marriage and that it is something that she struggles with and needs to work on. I know that I'm not always the best for helping her get to that situation where she wants to do that but it's difficult when you've spent years being rejected and nothing seems to really make a concrete difference. I just find it so hard to understand. For me it's so natural to want to do that and of course it's hard not to feel she doesn't feel the same way about me that I feel about her.
