You know what, I would have hung up on you too and I don't do that to people because it is majorly disrespectful.
You are making this way worse on the both of you than it has to be.
Stop asking any questions. Stop wondering if what you are doing is the right thing. Stop talking about anything that does not pertain to the kids. Just STOP.
You want advice but you do what you want anyway and then come here and tell us about it. We tell you what we think and then you REPEAT your behavior anyway.
How is that working for you?
SLOW DOWN. Give her time and space or you will be seeing the inside of a courtroom for a divorce very soon.
I have seen none of this that requires immediate attention, except the fridge, and when it has, she took care of it.
You have some of the best people on here and you refuse to implement what they are telling you because you are not LISTENING.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox