Hi Hoping, I wish I could take credit for that, but I think T2 is the one that wrote it. It really was awesome. I think I need to memorize it, but I swore off R talks for quite some time. I had two or 3 in 2 weeks time and it's got him spooked. He's pretty distant, and I'm my same loving self. It sure would be nice to have it reciprocated. The trip to Colorado is still on,so I don't want to blow it. There's just no intimacy in his contact with me right now. I think he's trying to get the feelings back, but wonders if he can. I wonder too. When we part I usually tell him I love him,and he says it back. There's been a few times he's told me first, but it's been a few weeks now. He just kinda shut down for some reason. I always wonder if he's talking to the OW. He says he's not had any contact with her at all. Can I believe him when he tells me he doesn't love her, and will tell her if she ever calls him that he cannot have any contact with her? I think if he wanted her, he would have asked me for a D by now. He never has. He really wants to love me and have our family back together again.He has told me that much. I know its the lack of feeling he has for me that's preventing it. He'll act like he's in love with me for a few days then back off. What's up with that?? T2, why do you think your H started really caring again? I'm not sure how to act around him. Do I leave him alone, or keep "acting as if" things will be fine? I'm starved for love and attention. Rachael
