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[awest1217]

I have had that conversation with my H, and this is an ongoing problem. Even while dating, about every 3 years H would have OW he would become emotionally attached to. H always says they are just friends, but then they are saying things to each other on the phone and internet that definitely show there is more; I love you, sexual inuendoes, or other sexual references. H has been gone for 5 months living for a month with OW and her husband and for the past for in a house where he has no rent and pretty much no expenses at all. I know I am not ready to file because I do want to make sure I have no regrets and want to give DBing a chance to work.

I mostly just needed to vent so I didn't vent if H calls tonight, which he probably will since he only calls Tues and Fri to see S and myself. Sometimes I think he just does this to see S and also to make sure I am still "in". He always says "don't give up on me". I am really trying not to, which is why I needed to vent, but at the same time, I need to have a reason to not give up and continually knowing he is with the OW even now "just as friends", although more than that before, is hard.

I am really trying to show H I am changing by not bringing it up, although he was seen with OW by my sister on Saturday when he specifically told me they would not be together. I want to show that I love him enough to put this behind us, whenever he is ready to do the same thing.

Thanks for letting me vent!