Physically speaking, it's not possible. Your DNA is very tightly wound together. (That's a joke, but true none the less.)
We’ve all given you the same advice Swimming…you just don’t take it.
Get a Life. Stop expecting anything from him. He’s still there. You avoid the arguments.
So the only thing left for you to do is to get a life and stop expecting anything from him. Don’t push, don’t pursue, get a life.
He’s not supposed to make you happy. Do you believe that? You aren’t responsible for his happiness either. So with that, you can’t be the one to make him unhappy and he can’t make you unhappy…..unless you let him.
Take back you life here Sweet Pea. You are a smart fun person with things to do and to accomplish. You have a family that needs you to keep it together.
Look, if this guy thinks he can do better than you, don't you love him enough to let him do that? Don't you want him to be happy? Let him go.
Really between you and me, he knows he's got a pretty good deal where he is. There maybe some doubts, so erase them for him. Be the best damn woman you know how to be. That's for you. That's for your benefit. If H sticks around because he sees it too, well, good for him.
And from now on, YOU do NOT let him back in your room until he gets his crap together. You want to turn things around? This is how you do it: WORK ON YOU.
Right now, write a list of the things you want to work on for you about you. I saw you started one earlier. Start with that. Work on it. Be good to you. Set your goals and achieve them. Then treat yourself. A mani/pedi. Ice cream, whatever you think you deserve.
If dummy wants to walk and let some other great dude come in and be the man of his house, and let some other dude benefit from what a great woman you've grown into, so be it.
Let go of your fear Swimming. Concentrate on you because concentrating on him is making you a basket case. And for the record, do you want to be with a basket case? Or would you like a sexy confident partner?
