You can end it now if you want to. I think the DB coaches would recommend you wait until the OW is out of the picture and sooner than later, statistically speaking she will be. I think I’ve heard and read on here 10 months is the norm for an OP on average. What does your gut say? Do you think you are in a position to tell him “I will not share you with anyone in anyway? I understand you say this other person is simply a friend, and that may be true. But from my perspective you are at least confiding in another woman things you should be sharing with me, your wife. I can’t accept that.” For me I did eventually have that conversation with my H. But there was a time early on in all of this that if I had said that he would have said “OK, bye bye.” Timing is a very important issue here. It goes right with patience.
