How are you improving your quality of life? How is God changing you? What has He revealed in you where you can be better?
JonF,
Right now I am trying to save money again, so I am not doing a whole lot out there. I am making friends which is good.
God is changing me in that I realize that it is my job to pray for my W's soul and allow God to change me and make me a better H and father to my kids. I have come to realize that it is not my job to change my W, but His job. Like you, the best thing I can do is let her see the changes in me. It is my job to love her unconditionally which means if she doesn't want to be with me, then she doesn't have to. But the door is and always will be opened for her to return. I will be ok with or without her. I prefer it to be with her. But I am not in control of that situation.
I can be non judgemental but hold true to what I know to be right. I don't need to put it in her face. My job is to step aside and work on me and let God work on her. It has been revealed to me just how much I made a mess of things and will continue to if I don't step aside and focus on how I can be better.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...