Nothing I do now affects the outcome, but everything i do now affects the outcome, the fact she never got to pick out a car has been a major hurt.
She saw it as control I know it was impulsiveness that caused that,I want her to have a new car,it's not a tic for tac and I'm not giving in to her.
I don't like the payment it's high, the car is solely in my name and if she did divorce me, on my current income, I'd be strapped to afford it anyway. I have a demo, I don't need a car or car payment.
For the first time in months, she has actually referred to it as a car, vs "your car."
The kids and i always called it mom's car.
I found out in one of her tyraids that in 95 she was going to kick me out for buying her a car back then that she didn't get to pick out.
Oh i get to handle the snacks, what she doesn't know is i traded the snacks to handle the chain gang again, that way i am way across the field from her and in laws and able to see my son play ball, smiley face.
Boat I printed off what you said last nite, most of what you guys have said, i've printed off and studied and i'm using the parts i like and being me, too.
Wow. Just saying hi. We haven't met yet. lol You have a lot of thoughts running through your mind all the time. I do too, but not nearly as many as you do. You must be exhausted! I'm not being funny, I have an issue with turning my brain off especially at night. It wears you out.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
I work for a dealership and she knows she can buy what ever she wants from me.
Now she gets to wrestle with, does she include me in the decision or not, does she come to me or not.
I let her go to make that decision. It's her play. I am not expecting anything. And i'll laugh either way, even if she takes someone else with her, because at some point, she's going to deal with that, not me. I already let it go.
