Thanks for stopping in. H and I did our own paperwork - no lawyers. So it was all on me to get things filed and sent back. Our papers got kicked back several times for various reasons, so I had ample opportunity to stall by simply not fixing the problems with the papers when they would come back.
During this time, I had started asking H if he wanted to reconcile, and he kept saying No, the D was 'for the best', etc. On the last round with the papers, I told him I would submit them again even tho I didn't want to, but if they got kicked back again, I wasn't going to re-file because it meant the universe didn't want us to get divorced. And that's where we are now - they got kicked back again.
Saving face - if you have lawyers involved, I think the only thing you can do as ask for a stay to do MC, or you can ask for a hearing and when the judge asks if you think the M is irretrievably broken, you say No, you'd like to do MC or Retro. Then the judge might order it.
Are things too dicey in your sitch for you to straight out ask your H for a little more time?
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
