2. What would you say was your prior* marital interpersonal style: accommodating/pleasing/rescuing/NiceGuy, or controlling/assertive/distant?
Currently, she has very little to complain about. She says I do everything pretty well. But she is bitter and resentful of the past. In our conversation the other night she said something to the affect "Sometimes I get so angry. But I miss you. I miss being angry at you, if that makes any sense."
In the past I was more the "controlling/assertive/distant" type.
1. What, specifically about your past role in the marriage is she resentful of?
2. Can you give us an idea of what this ("controlling/assertive/distant") looked like? Some examples of it? That REALLY surprises me, but we only have what you come across like on this board to go by, so I'll take your word for it.
