Quote: You know, I'm not a very 'sentimental' person and yet, I find the desire to have some kind of recommitment ceremony very important to me, to us, as a couple. I guess I want a 'public testimony' of my H's commitment. To me it'd be as if he was announcing to the world, "I faltered but I have righted my life and I am going to live it with the woman that stood by me as I fell."
ya know? T2
Yes...I absolutely know.
Let me acknowledge the selfishness of what I'm about to say in advance of saying it...
My h carried on his a. in public -- at work -- in a crowd of OUR friends (OK, they were people that he worked with but eventually we became a social circle). Now none of them KNOW for a fact the details of what happened but apparently it was a source of much speculation and discussion.
It was (and is still at times) humiliating.
So...tacked onto the desire for a "new beginning" and "recognition for how far we've come" and "acknowledgement over what we've learned" and a thousand other positive things is the deeply held desire to have my h assert his recommitment in the same public forum that he showed his lack of it....
But...who knows...maybe it would also give some of those couples hope that you can come thru a firestorm and be OK ... etc.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
