Considering my wife's current illness and her grandmother being terminally ill, I have been trying to be caring, helpful, nice to my wife while at the same time being somewhat de-tached. I'm wondering if this is right though.
Since we will be living in the same house for at least a few months, I thought it best to live well together for everyone's sake. Also, really being there in troubling times has not been my strength in the past. So, "being there" is a 180 of sorts - at least in my wife's mind.
Am I doing the right thing by "turning into the caring, doting husband" (to quote my wife's text from last week), while at the same time being self reliant, positive, and in no way needy? I hope you understand what I am trying to ask.
Since there has been no R talk and daily life is smooth (but wife remains somewhat distant) my current approach seems to be working. I am as happy as can be considering the situation, so it does work for me - but am I sending confusing signals?
