...and I'm not completely convinced he actually believes you're having an A. Not completely.

He does owe you an apology, and if he starts on with that rubbish again, I'd tell him so. Swell up with righteous, calm indignation and tell him exactly that. You'd never cross boundaries, although based on photos from his trips, he clearly has, so perhaps he should clean up his own act before he goes off half-cocked accusing the faithful Ms. Oz of that sort of behavior.

Really, Oz, if he really has a double standard and expects to be able to cake eat for the rest of your lives, do you want him? Is it okay for him to behave like he has and then turn it around on you?

Separations aren't necessarily bad. My H and I were separated in-house, but we had very minimal contact. In the end, it was the best thing that ever happened to us.

Your H is acting like a spoiled child.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!